La La Anthony offered a very positive message to women while sitting on the panel with Miss Info at the Circle of Sisters Expo’s 10th annual celebration. In her message to the women in the crowd she urged them to aspire to “bring something to the table” in their relationships. As a wife of a famous NBA star & mother to an active young son balancing her roles as a wife, mother & career woman are not as easy as an Instagram photo may make one believe. She wanted the women to understand the value of feeling “complete” before entering a relationship stating that in the event the relationship were to go sour you want to be secure in knowing that you could provide for self. She also stated she never planned nor aspired to date a famous athlete & that it sorta “just happened”. In spite of her happiness in her marriage she attributes her happiness in part to feeling completely happy with herself. She urged ladies not to seek completion nor validation from their mate. I tip my hat to her for delivering such an honest & real message that ladies need to hear.

She said:

I’m not being negative but it’s something to be said that, [your man] knows that if something goes down, you would be okay if you had to walk away. And that’s powerful. That is powerful. So it’s just something to think about. I say, come into a relationship with your own. Everyone is not meant to run a Fortune 500 company, but just have something that you own. A clothing line, a hobby, something that you’re passionate about so that your whole world doesn’t revolve around a man. That’s not a good thing.

For me the whole ‘Basketball Wife’ thing, it’s tricky. I battle with that title because sometimes I go, you know, ‘I’m not a basketball wife, I’m not a typical basketball wife,’ but in essence, I am a basketball wife. It took for Gayle King to sit me down and go, ‘You know, you shouldn’t look at it as such a negative title. It is what you are,’ and I respect my husband and I want to be a great wife and be there for him, but I also want to have my own career and do my own thing. Which I think is really cool. I think when you bring something to the table, and I say this to all the ladies out here, it just makes you that much more attractive to that man that you’re with. It just makes you that much more valuable.